[Update April 6, 2017: For an alternative take on this topic, please see Dominance and Gender by Afrosapiens]
Since becoming a celebrity, I’m always looking at what other famous bloggers are writing about, and few bloggers are more famous than Chateau Heartiste. To countless men on the internet looking for love, Heartiste is God, and rightfully so. Of course skeptics think the type of dating tips found in the manosphere are useless because women are either physically attracted to you or they’re not, and there’s nothing you can do to manipulate them. But that’s only half true.
Recently Heartiste was blogging about the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey, a book turned movie about a woman who starts dating a very dominating man. Heartise writes:
I believe women are aroused by assholes qua assholes because assholes are, above all, INTERESTING men. They aren’t like the mediocre masses of rapidly feminizing beta males. You want masculine, virtuous men of the West? The path to that nirvana is blazed by the swashbuckling assholes.
I remember in university I was doing some presentation with a complete moron, who kept pestering me with stupid questions about when I was supposed to speak and when he was supposed to speak. Finally, I lost my temper and yelled and berated him for his utter incompetence in front of the entire class. But what I’ll never forget was how sexually aroused a female classmate was upon observing my act of dominance. The expression on her face is seared permanently into my brain. [update march 29, 2017: One reader thought this was mean, but the guy was way too popular and over-confident to have been bothered by a nobody like me putting him in his place for one brief moment]
I believe that in prehistoric times, women who were sexually aroused by submissive men had fewer surviving offspring, because those men got dominated by other men, and thus couldn’t provide for their women and children. As a result, largely the genes of women who like dominant men, and thus like being dominated, got passed on. Similarly, men who like feeling dominant, also passed on more genes, because men who are dominant in all aspects of their lives acquire more resources and status, which in prehistoric times, meant more genetic fitness.
But there’s a dark side to this. Because so many women like being dominated, they are more likely to tolerate physical and emotional abuse in relationships, and are less likely to strive to positions of power in society. In some ways, to be sexually fulfilled, women must sacrifice their dignity.
There’s also a dark side for men. Because men are turned on by being dominant, they are more likely to engage in rape and other sadistic acts, because for some men, consensual sex is a turnoff. If the woman is agreeing to the sex, she’s not being dominated, which ruins the experience for a lot of men. The dark truth is that a lot of men are so evil, they go home every night and have sex with their wives, while fantasizing about jumping out of the bushes and raping some completely random lady on the street.
So how does understanding all this help men get women to be attracted to them? The trick is to make women feel dominated, but a man should never, under any circumstances, hit a woman, rape a woman, or cause her physical harm. You should also never play some disgusting S&M role playing game. For one thing, if a women is agreeing to be dominated, then by definition she’s not being dominated, since she’s getting what she wants, and she knows it, and more importantly, she knows you know it.
A man should never, ever, EVER, hit a woman or rape a woman, but that doesn’t mean you can’t show your superiority in other ways. Most women suck at video games, chess, and pocket billiards, so get her to play those games with you and obliterate her every time. Remind her that you’re better at math than she is, and you’re better at fixig things around the house. Be arrogant, but come across as sincere in your arrogance. But be subtle enough about it that she never catches on that you’re using some kind of strategy on her.
The other key is to never disrespect your girlfriend in front of others, especially family, coworkers, or friends. What you must understand is that women are multidimensional beings. Just because the sexual part of them wants to be dominated, doesn’t mean there aren’t other parts of her that want respect.
So give a woman plenty of respect, but never for any dominant traits. Never praise her intelligence, her income, her career; instead tell her how pretty she is, how sexy she is…praise her cooking, her cleaning, her body…tell her she’d make an excellent mother.
The problem is, if a man does all this, and it works, then he ends up with a woman who enjoys being dominated, which means that in the relationship, the man doesn’t get to fulfill his genetic need to dominate, because dominating a woman who wants to be dominated is by definition not domination.
[Update Nov 22, 2018: This article might be getting endorsed by a popular sex blog. If you’re over 18 and interested in sex, check it out]
that’s all crap.
almost of the selection has to be epistatic, because men have an X chromosome, the rest has to be for the Y chromosome alone. the Y chromosome has only 50 or 60 genes.
what women want is a man who isn’t too far from the archetype.
1. men are taller than women, so women want a man who’s taller than she is.
2. men have deeper voices, so women want a man with a voice deeper than hers.
3. men are more muscular, so women want…
etc.
i’ve been hit on by too many women with more status than i had to think women are just gay men in women’s clothing.
what women want is a man who isn’t too far from the archetype.
Exactly right.
…not to think that…
all of this PUA crap is ultimately from men’s inability to see themselves as sex objects…which is how most women see them. sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
https://screen.yahoo.com/sexual-harassment-000000677.html
If a man wants to see his success with women skyrocket, he need only a) put on 15 pounds of muscle (not too much…), b) decrease his bodyfat to around 10%, c) wear clothes that would signal him as high-status in whatever group he’s in, and d) act very normal relative to that group.
It’s not about negging, it’s not about openers, it’s not about stupid feather boas, and it’s not about trying to dominate anyone.
the social class one projects and the class he actually belongs to may be quite different.
health and good looks are “success” in a sense. success against Nature red in tooth and claw.
the impecunious gentleman is not just a trope of 19th c fiction.
and speaking of HBD and attractiveness Shari Belafonte and Ray Dawn Chong might have had more success in a “post-racial” society.
“he need only a) put on 15 pounds of muscle (not too much….”
Yea, you have no idea what you’re talking about,
“what women want is a man who isn’t too far from the archetype.” AGAIN, NO most women don’t give a damn about how much muscle, height, … a guy has. Have any of you guys here even talked with a woman in your lifetime or is this your pathetic attempt at justifying how the majority of guys are only into appearances?
1. men are taller than women, so women want a man who’s taller than she is.
2. men have deeper voices, so women want a man with a voice deeper than hers.
3. men are more muscular, so women want…
etc.
Doesn’t this exactly show that, in a sense, women want to be dominated by their partner? Or rather, that they want to feel that they could potentially be dominated by their partner? (If we leave the paradox of dominance out of the argument..)
Men aren’t the naturally dominant ones if they have to sit around and try to figure out how to be dominant and help other guys to be. I have to admit though, the effort is really cute, I mean that. I find this stuff so funny. Thanks for entertaining me!
Aww!
well the old, easy strategies for male dominance are now taboo (basically physical dominance) thank God!! Now emotional dominance reigns supreme and men are scratching their heads trying to figure out how to get back in the game. But I’m glad you find guys cute! That’s a big step in the right direction for us haha 😀
A double blind study was done recently asking people about their sexual fantasies. 64.6% of women and 53.3% of men had predominantly submissive fantasies while 46.7% of women and 59.6% of men had dominant fantasies. Obviously the premise that women are naturally submissive is incorrect. Many women do not act out their fantasies due to social conditioning and secretly burn with desires to dominate men in the bedroom. The reason why the female dominatrix tends to be an older women is the same reason a lot of gay men don’t come out of the closet until they are int heir 40’s. It takes a long time to embrace a part of yourself that is considered socially unacceptable. Society as a whole sends women a strong message of submission, but submission it is not natural to at least half of the women in the world.
Human beings respond to social cues with regard to dating. If an individual wants to become more attractive, he need only observe what the media presents as attractive. The closer an individual can come to this, the more successful an individual will be.
‘Of course skeptics think the type of dating tips found in the manosphere are useless because women are either physically attracted to you or they’re not, and there’s nothing you can do to manipulate them.’
Closer to the truth but not quite it. A) when a woman is attracted to you, you can do whatever you want and B) you can change your physical attractiveness a great deal, because much of it is cultural. There is health and then there is ‘the type.’
Correction: A) No, men generally can’t do whatever the hell they want when a woman is attracted to them, if they do that means they have proven the woman that they’re not as reliable/desirable/decent as the thought and as a result completely ruin her trust/interest in him. B) Most respectable girls or women prioritize what the guy has to offer them in terms of his intelligence, personality, habits, lifestyle, … . So again, no a guy can’t suddenly become attractive as soon as he changes his appearance. The majority of girls aren’t shallow enough to fall for that.
What about facial structure?
at fixig things
typo
Different women have different phenotype prefferences. ”Women” prefer ”’men”, NOPE, certain type of women prefer certain type of men…
Asian man tend to be ( more) rejected because same bio-circunstamces of white (indian, black……..) nerd. Because east asians IS a NERD RACE, specially in the case of japaneses.
But many times, nerd nice guy search their partner in wrong places. Is very common to nerd guy fall in love with popular (bitch, superficial… generally they are like that) gurl.
Choose ”the brunette” (most times, brainly and nice girl).
Feminine beauty industry is a fake beauty in large scale.
Most East Asian men are considered not attractive in Western Standard Measures.
Remember Lion was saying Keanu Reeves is Asian. This bias comes from the fact that East Asians are generally not registered in Western Minds deeply, because of their physical appearance.
But also by cultural and personality factors. The asian appearence is a plus. In Brazil, east asians, even brazilians with east asian ancestry, still are treated as ”strangers”, ”foreigners”. People may can accept races exist when they compare east asians with others but cause PC and falsification of history, westerners believe SPECIALLY blacks and whites are the same or the differences among them are superficial cause brainwashing or nurture in misinformation.
Also, East Asians are generally not very dominating or aggressive like blacks or Whites. They also lack the strong sociopathic and high verbal functioning skills of Jews. Qualities that are all important in the West, perhaps not very important in East Asian cultures.
In America, I had the opportunity to meet a few Central Asians, who have mix hyrbid Caucasian/East Asian genes. They come across as more aggressive than East Asians due to mixture and more nomadic culture. So yes, HBD is correct, and also theory that East Asians are a domesticated high functioning group. Whites and Jews are less domesticated.
”So yes, HBD is correct, and also theory that East Asians are a domesticated high functioning group. Whites and Jews are less domesticated.”
Jews are less domesticated than whites, psychologically speaking.
“Jews are less domesticated than whites, psychologically speaking.”
True, and not only psychologically speaking.
Why should we have to like you? Instead of going for someone like me- blonde, big breasted LA girl- which I guess you think is boring- maybe date some other asian chick. What about those girls?
You sound like a spoiled brat. Why would you want to pursue someone that doesn’t like you? Sounds like your issue dude, NOT our problem.
and men tend to interpret their feelings of strong attraction as “she’s so good looking.” and women “he’s so something else.”
but if they took a step back and looked at those women or men they are most strongly attracted to more objectively i think the men would find it was much less about looks and the women would find it was much more about looks.
and then there’s the conundrum of unattractive people who marry and stay married. Seinfeld explained it with alcohol. a better explanation is that people are most strongly attracted to those of similar beauty. all love is narcissism and all sex is masturbation.
Can I use this for a paper I’m writing?
u 2 r smart for black ppl
Who are you to tell me what men should do ?
I think those kind of things happened especially in southern warmer climate countries, for example black African males are super macho and dominant.
But I think in northern climate countries women needed men to survive so they could not be as selective, that is why northern races are not as dominant – for example east asians are not usually macho kind of people.
You are all wrong dude. On the contrary, the more hard is the climate, the more distinction between man and woman there is. The climate is harder in northern regions so the women need to more take care of the children and the role are more distinct between men and women. White woman are more dependant of men than black woman who are very masculine. The distinction between men and women are more important in arabs than in europeans because arabs lives in a desertic environnement.
Shut the fuck up, dude. Tired of this pseudo science “race X is more masculine/feminine than race X” bullshit. I pray you’re not a white man, if so I laugh at you amongst with other white men who inadvertently shit on their race by calling it more “feminine” than blacks/other races.
This sounds unorganized and stupid, sadly many idiots think like you do and that’s why forced natural selection will work in erasing degenerates like you from the world.
It’s either asian women or white women are most feminine, now which one is it? Naw, I guess it depends which one of your beta ass group feels like obsessing over the next.
To oversimplify:
Northern races are psychologically more masculine. They have a more autistic brain.
Southern races are more masculine at a hormonal level and thus, physical. They also tend to be more psychopathic which is a masculine trait.
But the other dude is wrong when he is saying that Black men are super dominant toward women. He doesn’t have the intelligence to see the nuances.
I would say Northern races are more cognitively masculine (spatial IQ > verbal IQ; math IQ > social IQ) but i don’t know if they’re more emotionally masculine because that would imply they’re more aggressive, arrogant & competetive.
Aggression is something we usually associate with blacks but perhaps nerdy whites & East Asians are aggressive too in a different way (bill gates is super aggressive )
Black African males ( I’m guessing you’re referring to the West African/Ivory Coast stock AA descended from because apparently East Africans, Central Africans, South Africans, ect and the like don’t exist ) are not particularly “masculine”. Masculinity is earned not an innate quality. A man is a man by his own success, a woman is a woman by her own virtue and nature. Get it?
More mental masturbation for those beta losers who are obsessed with blacks being seen as more dominant than them and being given an excuse to chase after east asian women so they act like men.
Climate is not related to how people generally behave or think! I’m from a country in the middle east, known as a warm one, and i’d like to see a male “dominating” me for just a split second … . Not to mention that, in the ancient times, men and women were completely equal here and by equal i mean actually EQUAL, equall rights, equal pays, equal value to the society, equal education, equal chances of becoming the head of the nation and monogamy for all regardless of their gender … so there … you’re research (if you even have done any) is heavily lacking! Not to mention that in many warmer parts of the world there have/had been tribes that also had/have complete equal rights and norms for girls and guys, even some tribes treated guys like how Arabs treat their women now, degrading them, burying them alive, robbing them of their right to live, move around, decide who to marry, vote, etc and women were/are in charge of making all the decisions for guys (since they were seen as slaves or objects).
I don’t know why Nordics have forgotten their ancestry as war-loving barbaric tribes up into the 6th century. Nordics are just as violent as /any other race on this planet earth/. You enjoy no moral superiority. Snap out of it.
Humans are not that different, even between Negroids, Caucasians and Mongoloids.
Have you heard of Roman Catholic genetic pacification? That’s one hbd theory.
I meant to say hypothesis.
Wow, I was smart even in 2017.
Why is it “evil” to fantasize about rape (provided you don’t intend to do it)?
Also, what’s wrong with ritualized or roleplayed dominance/submission? It might not be “real” domination, but naturally submissive women can still find it arousing.
Also, what’s wrong with ritualized
It’s just not dignified.
‘Also, what’s wrong with ritualized or roleplayed dominance/submission? ‘
It’s low status. Individuals who are into sexually ‘alternative’ lifestyles tend to be dating market losers.
I think it’s gene-culture coevolution. If there are people who still don’t believe in it, look here: http://lalandlab.st-andrews.ac.uk/documents/Publication145.pdf
IN other words, Cochran and Frost’s hypotheses are right.
Or even evolutionary psychologists, actually. I contend that women wanting to be dominated by men is an universal thing. The converse is true for men, that they innately want to dominate women. For example, in Sub-Saharan Africa the mark of a man and his social prestige depends on how many women he can control and get to work for him and give him sexual favours. But unfortunate this, by way of gene-culture coevolution, led to a dysgenic effect and resulted in lazy men and promiscuous women. We see that in modern black american culture.
Kevin, this is very true.
I used to be very averse to the “poverty is the cause for crime” argument. However, after seeing the evo-psych reason (men without resources look to increase their capital by stealing), it started to make more sense.
Highly disagree with this nonsense … that’s just another argument from sick males to gain advantage over girls which still wouldn’t help them since no one cares the tiniest bit about their little “scientific” guess.
What exactly do you disagree with? Care to explain?
You all Reak Of Foul Douche Smell
This article is 100% right so shut the fuck up stupid bitch.
This article is 100% wrong so shut the fuck up you stupid little shit!
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OH, heterosexuals…BLECH!!!
Well if you mean heterosexual white males … then i agree … BLECH!!!
you sad, sad little thing.
I don’t think that a woman who enjoys being dominated isn’t “really” being dominated, but it’s a semantic debate. Do you think that a man who agrees to dominate his wife during sex is doing something wrong because she enjoys it? That strikes me as incredibly silly. A woman can be stable in a submissive role, sexually and in general domestic life, even if it makes her happy. (And it does make many women happy.) But maybe I’m misreading you.
Reminds me of the old joke: Masochist: “Beat me, please!” Sadist: “No.”
Also, I don’t think that men who fantasize about rape are evil. Sexual fantasies are weird; they don’t necessarily have much connection to real behavior, and they obviously don’t directly involve real people. That being said, I wouldn’t be at all surprised if men with rape fantasies are more aggressive and psychopathic than men without them.
Your comment makes a bit of sense, but only a tiny bit. OP argues here that there is actually no “real” domination – because even a woman who wants to be dominated/wants to be submissive, and is ‘willingly’ recieving that – is actually equally as dominating ad her counterpart. The only “real” domination is where one has 100% power and the other 0%, and that is essentially rape.
“The dark truth is that a lot of men are so evil, they go home every night and have sex with their wives, while fantasizing about jumping out of the bushes and raping some completely random lady on the street.”
What horseshit. I find this to be untrue personally, and studies have shown that men are at 50-50 when it comes to prefer to be dominated vs dominant. Given that they all are the result of successful surviving genes, your claim that men are evil is absolute horseshit.
“What horseshit.”
Totally agree!
Who is the clueless little turd pecker snot who typed this delusional crap? Lol
To the mental hospital you must go you insecure fuck haha!
You obviously haven’t done your research like the man who wrote this has.
Just because you did do research doesn’t attest to the quality of research cited or how you filtered it. This is where citations come in so the reader can discern if it’s pseudo-scientific.
Totally agree with you Hanna13! Well said!
The problem is you don’t understand what being dominating means. We want action – i.e. a man who will call, pay, act, lead. We don’t want inactive mind games like playing hard to get or aggression, or pussying off to find someone else because the current girl was just a game to you. Come on, most of you are not James Bond. That is, you would appear more manly if you exercised focus instead of juvenile trophy hunting behaviour…you don’t get how women tick often and when you don’t get it, I personally lose interest very quickly. And yes, I’m an Alpha woman…in all ways.
Good luck with finding your unagressive James Bond, Alpha woman.
you women have not a faintest idea….
start loking men, start loving them, start dominating them, start appreciating them
fuck you – dominate us but make pretend. Do dominate us, do desire us, it is in you. But your weak ducks.
Our weak ducks what? Did they win the spelling bee contest unlike you?
https://notpoliticallycorrect.me/2016/08/06/the-evolution-of-violence-a-look-at-infanticide-and-rape/
Buy this book PP.
https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Violence-Biological-Roots-Crime/dp/0307475611
You are all mentally retarded and I feel bad for the women that cross paths with you.
I agree … apparently this one has been badly rejected by every lady he was ever in contact with and this is his revenge … lol !
Utter bullshit. Stop stereotyping it is 21th century for crying out loud.
Seconded! Thank you!
Innate gender is not stereotyping, you grizzly.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
STOP!!!
STOP!!!!
I need an EMT.
Hahahahahahahahahaha.
And I thought the sasquatch article was the the greatest post in this blog’s history!!!
HAHAHAHAHAHAH
Ohhh..
Whew.
I’m going to read it again.
Lol
Ok after reading this, I’m convinced Peepee is a guy. Lol.
Most women suck at video games, chess, and pocket billiards, so get her to play those games with you and obliterate her every time. Remind her that you’re better at math than she is, and you’re better at fixig things around the house.
Yea because nothing turns a woman on more than being “obliterated” by a “dominant” man at video games, pocket billiards, and chess. Lol.
I was wrong about you two being the same person.
Hi buddy thank you for a good post.
I hate both men and women.
I can’t trust them.
I like plants and birds.
I am not sexually desperate and never needed srx.
But my issue is with women who try to dominate me at work.
I try to ignore them but they create more problems for me.
How can I psychologically dominate them and not spend mich time for that.
I just want them out of my life.
Regards
Nikhil
What a sad life you must live….
LOL another misogynist who thinks women give a dime about what he thinks of them … .
Well to answer your question, do what wise people does REGARDLESS OF ANYONE’S GENDER! If they have a higher status than you, just listen and obey and if they don’t, they probably don’t even notice you, let alone wanting to “dominate” you so just mind your own job. And if you can’t tolerate them at all, quit and go do something somewhere with no human population and tons of plants!
Yes, that’s what I know already. The earth never cheats like a human. I rather trust plants than these megalomaniacs.
How are we megalomaniacs?
This was a great article i really enjoyed it.
XD XD !
The guy who wrote this apparently has some serious problems with their own relationship (or maybe lack of them) … this is complete nonsense! And may I remind everyone that we were ALL girls (aside from the genes) before boys appear as boys as a fetus? Oh and by the way, I’m a girl who is always strictly dominant (not sadistic!) in anything sexual (and only do it that way) and I personally know of MANY many men who deeply want to be always the submissive one in bed or to be “taken” by their female partners … so … stop trying to act like people are programmed by their gender or by ignorant sexist beliefs such as this one!
I know guy who…. All my friends are betas who allow…. They’re not men and allow their women to walk all over them…. Please. Just because your friends are the definition of beta doesn’t mean that all men are or should be.
In my experience, I noticed romantic relationships either lean toward mother/son or father/daughter type of relationships. No extreme is good and no one is stuck to one tendency, it’s a matter of alchemy. I’ve experienced both types of relationship in the moderate range.
Besides that, dominance is expressed in bed and in life outside the couple. I’m a type of guy who dominates in bed and in life, but I hate women who are too passive in a relationship.
Yelling at someone isn’t dominant or masculine. Dominant men (like me) have a natural aura that makes raising the voice unnecessary, that’s why hysteria is considered feminine or immature. The way dominant men affirm dominance is by being competitive (I’m stronger than other men) and risk taking (I’m stronger than any danger). What turns my girlfriend on is when I do some people are awesome stuff.
In fact, women are simply attracted to talent, they want a man that they admire. Talents that involve body and brain are the optimal combination. This is why girls like athletes so much, they display body and brain fitness in the way that is crucial for survival and evolution.
“In fact, women are simply attracted to talent, they want a man that they admire. Talents that involve body and brain are the optimal combination. This is why girls like athletes so much, they display body and brain fitness in the way that is crucial for survival and evolution.”
I agree with this.
I’m now of the opinion that sexual selection was the driving force of human evolution, not survival of the fittest. Attractive physiques, attractive personalities, signs of dominance and artfulness (in the positive sense) were probably the most selected for traits.
“not sadictic!” you sure about that honey dear? or shall I say honey bear?
I think this was all a bit over thought.
There is a certain need for submission and domination in women and men in the general sense.
But there are few who rarely explore and get into that side of themselves, and many individuals who aren’t into it at all.
Also it’s madness to state some guy would get a BDSM girlfriend thats into being dominated and instantly be unhappy with what he wants just because it’s not true domination.
No one is quite that retarded to themselves.
This was all over-thought a bit, but it’s definitely got some merits, the comments are all pathetically stupid and badly written.
[comment redacted by PP, March 29, 2017]
Andrew, thanks for you empathy for my classmate, but trust me, he’s now doing a lot better in life than probably both of us combined, economically, physically, sexually and emotionally. He was far too emotionally secure to have cared what I thought of him, and because he is and was good-looking and athletic, the girls didn’t care how many times he looked foolish: he was Teflon and still is.
This is less sexist than I thought it would be, but a lot of it is still bs. I understand your point about genetics, and I’m sure some women would be totally into the guy you’re describing here.
The part that I really disagree with is that a man shouldn’t compliment a woman on her intelligence, etc. Come on! I’m happy when a guy tells me I’m pretty, but it feels infinitely better when a guy tells me I’m smart, good at the things I love to do, and other things that actually matter. And it doesn’t make the guy submissive, it makes him a good guy.
Anyway, I only read this because I am a woman who is dominant, both sexually and not. I wanted to call you out on your bullshit, but, as I said, there’s less bullshit here than I was expecting, so bravo.
Before you ask, yes, I’m sure I’m dominant. I’m not a lesbian, I’m not butch, I don’t have daddy issues, my parents have a healthy, well-balanced relationship. I am dominant and I want to dominate men in bed, and I can’t stomach even the thought of being submissive to a partner. And I would never date a man such as the one you’ve described here.
It’s no problem, though, because I’m sure they wouldn’t want to date me, either.
Best. Comment. Ever.
I hope I get to date a woman like you someday. I’m a magnet for submissive girls and they turn me off so much. So I also completely disagree with this posts. For sure, the most girls are into getting dominated (from what I experienced), but not all. And especially, not all men are into dominating submissive women. For me and the most of my friends, submissive women are completely boring and a turn-off. In my daily life I am very dominant also as a person, I train my body and I’m successful in business, but when a women asks me to spank her or to watch 50 Shades of Grey with her, I’m outta this shit.
What the fuck? Give her respect but never for any of her dominant traits?! Are you a fucking moron? I love to be dominated, told exactly what to do and even punished in the bedroom . I love those “disgusting” S&M games you say never to play. You know what I hate though? I hate men who fail to acknowledge my actual power and support my best qualities thus reducing me to an object who is pretty and a great cook. What you are talking about is manipulation. It’s not honesty nor true dominance. If you want to have a superficial relationship here is the answer. If you want something deep and meaningful you’re going to have to search far deeper than this honey.
by deep and meaningful you mean someone whipping you?
It’s not the worm it’s the wiggle!
Dominance is appreciated by submissive people.
Men tend to be worse than women at showing appreciation, women tend to be worse than men at gaining it or handling it.
The men who are good at showing appreciation, in return want to be appreciated for their showing of it (ironic but true) and this is why most submissive men don’t end up being gay. It is because they are attracted to how much appreciation a dominatrix shows them for submitting. The women who are good at gaining and handling appreciation end up being the b***h boss you all half hate but half respect the hell out of for making it despite her gender, oh and I guess you 0.1% envy her on the side. 😉
Look, most men are attention and appreciation demanders, most women are appreciation showers who simply want to find what they appreciate in this world. This means most end up falling into the dom/sub role that suits that tendency.
You are stating a majority tendency as an all-out rule and this is where you’ve gone wrong.
Nope, OP is not neccessarily stating a majority tendency here, but rather a general tendency. Everyone falls into the som/sub role, but the key is balance between the two/the natural flow of interchanging between the two roles. Also, I don’t really have any respect, or even hate, at all, for the ‘b***h boss woman’, least of all envy.. I merely pity her.
This reads like satire. I’m not going to any other articles on your blog.
This is the most ridiculous blog I’ve ever read. Play games like pool and do math to show your woman dominance ? Yawn! Parchisi isn’t my idea of foreplay. Many men have rape fantasies while they have sex with their wives or girlfriends? How exactly can that claim be made with no facts backing it up? Pumpkin Person , Idk why you refer to yourself as a celebrity, but your writing on this subject …its obvious you know nothing about the topic of dominance/submission. You are talking out of your a#% with absolutely no facts to back up your claims. Info that puts dominant men in the same light as “assholes” and rapists is another feminist bs scare tactic….women should behave and dress as women, men should behave and dress as men. Men should treat their women as women, women need to treat their men like men.
” Pumpkin Person , Idk why you refer to yourself as a celebrity”